Happiness is the one the thing we are all in constant search for. Every action we take and every decision we make is done with the goal of one day achieving a state of long-term happiness. We have check lists in our mind and we become convinced that if we check enough items off our lists, happiness is sure to follow.
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. The problem with basing happiness on a list of goals and achievements is that once they are achieved, it’s only a matter of time, before we find something else we ‘need’ in order to be happy.
We fixate on “getting that promotion” or “buying a new car” or “getting engaged” and then once those things are attained, we are happy for a short period of time, before we create something else in our minds that we are unhappy about and need to fix.
So many of us spend most of our lives being underwhelmed by our existence because we’re sure the “good stuff” isn’t what’s happening now, but what’s around the corner.
The reason external factors hardly ever work in creating constant happiness is because happiness is all in your mind. This means there are certain things we have to remember, when trying to achieve inner joy…
1. If you expect crappy things, that’s what you’ll get
I once read that if you want good things to happen, you have to believe that they will. Every thought determines your daily actions and your actions are the catalyst to a number of events which result in the outcome of your life. Logically speaking if you visualise positive outcomes they are more likely to happen because you are subconsciously working towards them.
2. Remember that nothing is permanent
Hard times come, but they will go too. It’s easy to fixate on your problems, we all do it, but just bare in mind that in six months or a year, the things which you are allowing to affect your mood may not even matter any more.
3. Accept that life has both ups and downs.
No one has ever gone through life and experienced only bad times or only good ones; life is a combination of both. If you come to terms with this, then when an obstacle does come your way, you can focus on “how to deal with it” as opposed to fixating on “why is this happening to me”.
4. Stop trying to control everything
Life becomes a lot easier when you realise you don’t have absolute control over everything. You can control yourself and your own actions but everything else is out of your hands. Fighting that is futile. Focus on the things you can change and learn to live with things which you can’t do anything about.
It’s so easy to get annoyed because you’re stuck in traffic, because the queue is too long or because it started to rain, but no matter how worked up you get, these are things you are never going to be able to change.
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5. Believe you are exactly where you should be.
I like to think that everything happens for the reason, because the prospect that everything is entirely random is too terrifying to fathom. From a young age we predict where we should be at any given time in our lives. “By 25 I’ll be moved out” or “by 30 I’ll have my first child” but things rarely ever go to plan. Instead of worrying that you’re falling behind or under achieving assume that this is the plan. Things might be different to your original plan, but sometimes different can lead to better.
6. Enjoy the journey
As cliché as it sounds, your life is the journey, not the destination so you might as well enjoy the ride. I’ll put it in simple terms to avoid sounding like a greetings card: this is it. This is your life. Your life doesn’t begin when you’ve got your dream job, your dream house or you dream life. It’s already started and all the little things we don’t even pay attention to are actually the BIG things.
The days which you think will be the biggest, are never nearly as momentous as the days which start off ordinary and end up surprising you.
7. Remember that happiness IS a choice
Find something to be happy about. It’s amazing how easy it is to find joy in even the smallest things when you try.
If you have nothing to be happy about, then make a change. A change in your attitude, a change in your routine or a change in your life. Who knows what might happen.
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